Hello World,
It has been several months. I apologize. Since I last wrote you, we have added a new member to our family. Our 2nd son was born May 23rd and is a great joy to have in our family. So, this completes us at 2 boys and 2 girls for a grand total of 4. Yay!!!
Today I put my oldest on the school bus for her first day of 1st grade. She was totally stoked and ready for the day. She was getting quite impatient waiting for the bus and jumped for joy along with a shout when it finally arrived :) I love that girl. We met her teacher last week and she seems really great. Extremely friendly and was genuinely interested in each and every child and parent that walked in to her classroom. I am anticipating a great 1st grade year for my sweet girl.
After I got my oldest on the bus I had some time to think. Most of you mommy's know that getting only one child, not to mention more, ready for school and out the door to the bus is not a thinking matter. You just do and do and do and then plop...throw yourself on the couch for a time to think and feel. My thought today was wondering why I didn't get emotional sending my child to school and seeing her grow up. I am naturally not a crier, but sometimes I feel like I should be in certain situations. It just really takes a lot to get the water works flowing. I do get moved and touched when the Lord's spirit is tangible, but really, who doesn't!!!!
So, in just thinking through this first day of school for my oldest I have come to this conclusion. I don't get emotional and sad about these times because this is what I am training her for. She is not meant to stay little and right under me. It is my job to train her and make her ready for these times. It is my job to equip her to grow up and teach her how to look like Jesus so she can shine in her world. This is exciting to me!! I look forward to seeing her grow and change. The more she grows and changes and lives her life the more I get to see what my job is really about. The more I get to see what my goal is and should be as her mother. It inspires me!!! It inspire me to keep working hard and even harder to better equip her for each day she will be in school and each milestone she will come across in her life. What a privilege we have as parents and what a HUGE responsibility. No wonder I have no time to work!!! I have 4 of these responsibilities!!! What an honor :)
So, parents, as you embark on this first day of school remember these things. You are training them and equipping them for such a time as this. You are trusting the Lord to do what you can't while they are away from you for the next several hours. You are trusting the Lord to not only protect but give them strength to be who He has made them to be and who He is molding them to be when you are not there to coach them through every situation that will arise. You have a huge responsibility and privilege of seeing your life long disciples (your children) spread their wings and grow. How can this only be sad?!?! This is exciting!!!!
So go, trust the Lord, disciple your children well, and be excited to see them grow and discover on their own.
Blessings!
Monday, August 26, 2013
Wednesday, January 23, 2013
A Mother's Thought
Today I was struck with a feeling that then got me thinking several different things.
I have come to the conclusion that I am not a baby person. I love my babies. I would not send them back for anything and I would not trade their baby days for any reason. My personality loves to dialogue, interact and be able to experience really great things with the people that I love. You can't really do that with babies or toddler/preschool age children. You can take them to do fun things but they won't process as deeply as an older child.
My first thoughts after having this feeling was I was a less than mommy. My thought was that I should appreciate where each of my kids are at and love the age they are at and soak in every part of it. But then I had other thoughts. A teacher chooses the grade that they teach by what age child they feel they interact with the best. What age child does their personality handle the best? If they are not preteen people they choose elementary or high school. If they are not older teenage people they choose middle school or elementary school. If they are not young child people they choose the older kids. That is ok. They have chosen an age group that they feel they will be successful with and that is ok. It is ok to have a preference and have an age you work with the best.
As a mom, we do have to be successful at every age group to some extent. That is our responsibility as a parent. We have to be working with them, teaching them and interacting with them as much as their age allows because that is what the Lord asks us to do as a parent. Now, does that mean I have to enjoy every age? No. Does that mean I should not want them to grow up a little bit? No. Do these feelings make me any less of a mom than the mom who likes babies? No.
Moms, you should never look down on yourself or feel less than because you are not enjoying an age that your child is at. We are humans. Do I love them less? Absolutely not. My love for my children never changes. That never waivers. Would I prefer them to move past that non-favorite age quickly? Absolutely ;) As a mom you are not guaranteed satisfaction all the time. You are not required to Carpe Diem every day, with every year, or with every stage. Some times you want them out of an age or stage quickly. Some you wouldn't mind them lingering in for a while. You are no less of a mom because you do not Carpe Diem every day. Do you love them unconditionally? Do you support them in every way you can? Do you give them everything they need and are available to them? Then you are a good mom. Don't let yourself or any other outside force make you feel other wise.
Carpe Diem those moments you don't want to forget and do your best with the rest. Stay the course mom. Stay the course.
Blessings.
I have come to the conclusion that I am not a baby person. I love my babies. I would not send them back for anything and I would not trade their baby days for any reason. My personality loves to dialogue, interact and be able to experience really great things with the people that I love. You can't really do that with babies or toddler/preschool age children. You can take them to do fun things but they won't process as deeply as an older child.
My first thoughts after having this feeling was I was a less than mommy. My thought was that I should appreciate where each of my kids are at and love the age they are at and soak in every part of it. But then I had other thoughts. A teacher chooses the grade that they teach by what age child they feel they interact with the best. What age child does their personality handle the best? If they are not preteen people they choose elementary or high school. If they are not older teenage people they choose middle school or elementary school. If they are not young child people they choose the older kids. That is ok. They have chosen an age group that they feel they will be successful with and that is ok. It is ok to have a preference and have an age you work with the best.
As a mom, we do have to be successful at every age group to some extent. That is our responsibility as a parent. We have to be working with them, teaching them and interacting with them as much as their age allows because that is what the Lord asks us to do as a parent. Now, does that mean I have to enjoy every age? No. Does that mean I should not want them to grow up a little bit? No. Do these feelings make me any less of a mom than the mom who likes babies? No.
Moms, you should never look down on yourself or feel less than because you are not enjoying an age that your child is at. We are humans. Do I love them less? Absolutely not. My love for my children never changes. That never waivers. Would I prefer them to move past that non-favorite age quickly? Absolutely ;) As a mom you are not guaranteed satisfaction all the time. You are not required to Carpe Diem every day, with every year, or with every stage. Some times you want them out of an age or stage quickly. Some you wouldn't mind them lingering in for a while. You are no less of a mom because you do not Carpe Diem every day. Do you love them unconditionally? Do you support them in every way you can? Do you give them everything they need and are available to them? Then you are a good mom. Don't let yourself or any other outside force make you feel other wise.
Carpe Diem those moments you don't want to forget and do your best with the rest. Stay the course mom. Stay the course.
Blessings.
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